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kat_mauvais

I’m getting pretty irked over the sheer volume of “follow me and I’ll follow you” bloggers who, once you follow them, don’t return the favor. I’ve done a ton of networking and following over the past week, and 95% of the bloggers I followed under the above “agreement” never actually followed me back.

BOO.

Has this happened to any of you guys? It’s so frustrating!

http://www.tallblondeartist.com

posted over 7 years ago
Mellanovha
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Mellanovha

Yes, a couple of time!!!, but some of them they do follow back….Hey your blog is amazing!!! here’s mine if you want to give it a look. http://hablemosfashion.blogspot.com/

posted over 7 years ago
 
kat_mauvais
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kat_mauvais

Following! :P

posted over 7 years ago
 
synthetic_audio
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synthetic_audio

Yeah I get this alot. But to be completely honest I could do without all the comments asking me to follow another blog, I would rather people read my blog for mine, and all the people I follow I also actually follow anyway.

I checked out your blog! You’re a good artist. I like it.

posted over 7 years ago
 
kat_mauvais
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kat_mauvais

Those drive me CRAZY! I got a TON of those when I had my fashion blogs. It was a bummer to get all excited about getting a comment notification and having it turn out to be “cute, follow me? xoxo kisses from Milan” and the like. Still, it’s painful to have so few followers with this current blog, so until I get on my feet, cross-following it is…

Thanks for checking out my blog! Following yours. I dig your style (and your hair!).

posted over 7 years ago
 
heyitsalyssayu
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heyitsalyssayu

Hi Kat!

You shouldn’t worry about not having enough followers. Just continue what you’re doing and there will come a time that you’ll realize you already have lots of followers. It may not be as much as those other bloggers but enough to keep you going. :)

Following you now! Check out my blog as well? http://heyitsalyssayu.blogspot.com/

Thanks for the critic on my blog in another thread! :)

posted over 7 years ago
 
Rayy
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Rayy

to be sincere everyone that give comments like that are not really worthy to be followed and i kinda never follow them….i rather follow someone because i like their art and work than "have to "and i expect the same treatment to return

posted over 7 years ago
 
kat_mauvais
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kat_mauvais

Following, Alyssa!

I know that in theory, one should blog for themselves and hope success comes eventually. Still, I’m one of those people who’s stubborn as heck and needs feedback all along the way. When I don’t get a comment or two, I feel like I’m failing and it demoralized me. A bad outlook? Well, maybe, but the good side to my blogging weirdness is that I’m more driven to work harder at promoting my blog and solving my problem.

But I digress. I’m still amazed by how so many bloggers don’t return follows when the swap thing has been pre-agreed to. :P

posted over 7 years ago
 
designeve
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designeve

You ladies have great blogs!!! I am new to Chictopia and to blogging so i have not experienced this as of yet, but that really does not seem cool if it is pre-agreed. Also as women i think it’s great to support each other as well as rejoice on the things we have in common. If you ladies would like to check out my blog http://dressesanddecor.blogspot.com/ i appreciate any support or comments.

posted over 7 years ago
 
fashion_nerd
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fashion_nerd

Honestly, I find the whole “follow me, I’ll follow you back” phenomenon to be rather aggravating. Blogging success is not about the number of followers you have, although that is certainly a measurement…. You can have a thousand followers, but if none of them actually read your blog, it won’t matter the least bit! The important part is to have creative, interesting, well-written content and decent photos. Then, you have to work your @$$ off to promote it and get noticed and build a community around your blog. That’s blogging success.

I find “follow me” commenters to be annoying, disingenuous and often have some of my least favorite blogs. I’m not going to follow a blog I don’t like, regardless of whether or not the author followed mine. On the other hand, I don’t expect another blogger to follow mine just because I subscribed to hers/his – can you imagine how many blogs Liz of LateAfternoon would be following if this really were considered blogger etiquette???

I’m not saying we shouldn’t use sites like Chictopia to introduce our blogs to other bloggers; what I am saying is that we should be more genuine and personable about it. Instead of leaving a hundred “follow me” pleas, send a few personalized messages, leave some thoughtful comments on the photos of people whose style you admire, or even go a step further and comment on their blog – and follow it, if you truly enjoy it.

Blogging is about building authentic relationships – it shouldn’t be a popularity contest, and I find it wildly depressing that it’s turning into one.

posted over 7 years ago
 
catiebeatty
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catiebeatty

That’s why I completely ignore those requests. This is especially true if they leave a comment on my blog and that’s all they say. I’m looking for actual readers, not just numbers. Girls who leave those comments are basically spammers who don’t understand how to actually get people to their blog. If I’m in a good mood, though, I’ll at least visit their blog and leave a comment. If I actually like their blog and their style, I’ll follow, but that’s because I want to keep seeing what they post, not because of some deal.

My advice, just don’t even bother. Those people don’t really care about readers. They think the numbers are what matter most.

posted over 7 years ago
 
kat_mauvais
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kat_mauvais

I see it as trying to strike a balance. I’m willing to do a certain amount of “follower building” so as to make some basic connections. Even so, I try my best to leave thoughtful comments on every blog I visit, and in such cases I don’t ask for a follow or anything. I don’t think I’ve ever left a blatant “follow me” post, actually!

In the end, I’d love to have readers who’re actually interested in me and my stuff, but I do think some numbers-building is necessary at the very beginning for the sake of giving one’s blog a presence. If no one knows about you or doesn’t see your blog pop up in their feed, it’s going to be harder for potential fans to find you!

posted over 7 years ago
 
caughtupinpink
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caughtupinpink

Hey Kathryn,
It was hard to find the GFC Follower list on your profile. Maybe that could be a reason. But I am not sure if you are talking about following on chictopia or on your blog?
I followed you hope you return the favor
xx
caughtupinpink.blogspot.com

posted over 7 years ago
 
kat_mauvais
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kat_mauvais

caughtupinpink, I’ve been following your blog for at least a week via one of these very “follow me” posts I’m complaining about!

Odd. I have a smaller GFC button on my blog because I don’t want the world to see how few followers I have yet. I still think that it’s findable. Maybe it loads slowly for first-time visitors or something.

posted over 7 years ago
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